How to help kids make the transition and knowing the knacks for handling nerves
Whether you’re living in the UAE as an expat, just arrived in these sunny shores or are a long-time resident, the often-transient nature of the emirates means that navigating a new school is commonplace for many children at some point during their academic career. And regardless of age, first-day nerves are something most children – and even adults – go through as a new term looms.
With a brand-new school year almost upon us, Dr. Anas Al Yazji, consultant paediatrician at Mediclinic City Hospital, offers some top tips on helping your child cope with any challenges that may arise, so that the first day back will be one filled with eager anticipation rather than anxiety.
Firstly, what are some of the most common concerns for kids starting at a new school?
Making new friends can be challenging for some children; for example, some might struggle with social interactions in a new school. New schools can present a higher risk of bullying, particularly for children perceived as ‘different’. The academic demands of a new school, especially if it’s more rigorous, can be a source of stress, too. Some children may struggle to adjust to the demands of a new learning environment, especially if it differs from their pervious one.
How can those nerves present themselves in a child and, as their parent, what should they keep an eye out for?
Some common signs include excessive worry, clinginess, physical complaints like stomach aches or headaches, change sin sleep or eating patterns, irritability and difficulty concentrating. They might also exhibit changes in behaviour, such as increased crying, withdrawal or refusal to go to school.
If your child is starting at a new school, how can you help them navigate the first few often nerve-wracking days?
To help new students navigate starting a new school, focus on familiarizing them with the environment, fostering connections, and providing ongoing support. This includes pre-school visits, orientation programs, and encouraging participation in extracurricular activities to build relationships. Open communication and addressing anxieties are also crucial for a smooth transition. To help new students navigate starting a new school, focus on familiarizing them with the environment, fostering connections, and providing ongoing support. This includes pre-school visits, orientation programs, and encouraging participation in extracurricular activities to build relationships. Open communication and addressing anxieties are also crucial for a smooth transition.
What are some of your key tips for overcoming first day nerves?
From a parent-perspective, focus on preparation, positive reinforcement, and communication. Develop a routine, practice separations, and talk about feelings. Also, ensure there is a supportive environment at home and school. To prepare the student, establish a routine of mealtime and sleep schedules. Visit the school and familiarise your child with the school building, classrooms and drop-off/pick-up locations before the first day of school. If separation anxiety is an issue, practice short periods of separation before the first day. Connecting with teachers and classmates beforehand can also ease anxiety. Establish a reward system for positive behaviors like attending school or having a successful drop-off. Highlight the exciting aspects of school, like making new friends, learning new things and participating in activities.
Talk us through some coping mechanisms for both students and parents for when these new school challenges arise?
- It’s important to help your child find a social circle. Make your child meet the new teachers and school staff before school starts. Schedule play dates between your kids and their new classmates if possible.
- Tour the new school and area ahead of the new school year.
- Offer them your support every step of the way. Acknowledge that it’s normal to feel anxious about a new experience and reassure them that their feelings are valid. Discuss what to expect academically and socially, emphasising that making mistakes is a part of the learning process.
- Enrol them in new activities to distract them. Plan a fun activity or treat for after school to provide the child with something to look forward to.
- Get involved in the school, if possible, as a volunteer.
